How Men Pick the Rings

Unlike some women who have already seen how their weddings will be like while they are still seven, men only think about engagement when the moment dawns on them. They do not buy an engagement ring and then pull it to any woman they are currently going out with. However, when the right woman comes, they would start looking for the right engagement ring.

The selection and the succeeding purchase are often done in secret. In order to help men who are artistically challenged, jewelry stores have an entire section devoted to engagement rings with various designs. The basic structure would have a metal ring (usually gold or silver) topped by a precious stone. The choice for many men would always be diamond due to its strength and beauty. Diamonds also do not come cheap, and their value would greatly depend on the cut, carat weight, color, and clarity. There are other gemstones that can be considered.

Ultimately, men choose engagement rings based on what they think is the most beautiful or the most expensive that they can afford. Price or beauty aside, what matters most is that when the proposal comes, it is hoped that the woman should look at the ring and understand what it means, not look at the ring and wonder how much it costs.

The Proposal
Equally important to the engagement ring is the proposal itself. Most men take their girl to an elegant dinner and pop out the question right there. Others go as creative as they can, because hopefully, they will only do this once in their life. Several proposals have been done in public, especially sports games with not-so-good results. Others propose under the sea. For what its worth, the proposal and the engagement rings bring out the romantics in all of us. Now let us hope that the girl says yes.

My Lovely Engagement Ring

I love my engagement ring that my husband gave me! As a newlywed, I was looking over my wedding album again and saw some pictures of my engagement ring. These photos reminded me of the story of how my husband chose my ring.

Just to let you know, my husband is not necessarily the most romantic nor creative guy in the world. I think his lack of creativity hinders his motivation to be a Don Juan or a smooth talker. Also, he doesn’t like to give flowers because they are a waste and die anyway, which makes sense (I still like flowers, though, and he does give them to me on occasion). But most importantly, he is nice and affectionate.

Well, according to my husband, he looked endlessly at different engagement rings just to find the perfect one for me. He even went to a free diamond workshop at a jewelry store, so he could learn about the 4 C’s in diamonds! I also hinted that I wanted conflict-free diamonds, so he considered that criteria when looking for diamond engagement rings. After his search, he decided to get my ring customized based on a design that he, along with some help, made in platinum. He designed the ring to look like my favorite flower, a rose. The diamond acted as the center of the flower, and platinum flower petals surrounded it. The side of the ring was engraved with leaves.

Being the man that I know who lacked creativity, I wondered how in the world did he come up with this idea. He said that one night, he complained to my mom that he just couldn’t find the perfect ring for me after looking at thousands of rings for the past month and was tired of searching. Then my mom got the idea to customize the ring and presented a drawing of a ring in the shape of a flower. She said that this drawing belonged to her mother. It was my grandmother’s dream engagement ring, but back in her days, a ring like that didn’t exist. Plus, my grandfather could only afford a simple one. I never really knew my grandmother, but my mom said that I resemble her a lot. We look and walk alike, and we both love roses, especially purple ones, and like to draw. Consequently, my husband loved my mom’s idea and also decided to add leaves to the sides, which he drew himself! He took this design to a local jeweler who agreed to make the design, and they said that they can make the ring in two weeks. Two weeks went by, and he heard nothing. As it turned out, this store went bankrupt. He freaked out because he planned on proposing to me in a few days. He told my mom what happened, and they started looking for other reputable jewelers who would make this ring. While he searched, my mom, for some reason, started looking at rings at jewelry websites. She saw this one store that received great ratings and contacted them to see if they had a similar ring. They actually said that they don’t normally advertise customized requests online, but they can still do it. They also said that they can create the ring and get it shipped overnight, which worked perfectly for my planned proposal date. My husband did get the ring shipped on time and was amazed with their craftsmanship as well as I.

After hearing the story of my engagement ring, I really appreciate it and, most importantly, my husband even more. I feel lucky to be married to a wonderful and thoughtful man.